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Are You Chasing the Right Goals?

Are You Chasing the Right Goals?
September 4, 2019 Dr. Karl Benzio

September 4, 2019

 

Are You Chasing the Right Goals?

 

Transformational Thought

We are all goal -oriented. No matter how in-the-moment, spontaneous or go-with-the-flow you think you are, no one is passively going through life without a goal in each situation, even if the goal is as simple as enjoying the moment. 

 

Some people are into ethereal goals, while others prefer very concrete ones: happiness, satisfaction, paying the bills on time, playing with the kids after work, finishing all the housework, getting my work done so I can watch the ballgame or helping people navigate life better. Some goals are quick and simple, and some are a bit more complex and take longer to achieve.  

 

Looking back on my life, few of my accomplishments emerged from a well thought-out strategy or process. In fact, I rarely looked at the whole picture before pursuing my “goals.” My aspirations as a teen and young adult were usually me-oriented. They “fixed” one problem, but ultimately gave birth to new one. The danger was that, once I set a goal, I became almost single-minded in my focus to achieve it. The other problem was that I set off to achieve it “my way.” 

 

I experienced some struggles and letdowns after missing some “ideal” goals. I began to realize that if I wanted to be successful and enjoy life, I really needed to change my strategy. The starting point had to be evaluating my goals to determine if they were the goals God wanted for me, and therefore, healthy for me and God-honoring. The second step was developing a new strategy to achieve these and other more fulfilling goals.

 

Sounds easy, doesn’t it? Just two steps. But we have so many issues working against us. To start, we are taught to be self-sufficient and to solve our own problems. We think “we have all the answers” or “we can’t trust anyone else to look out for us.” Mix in the fear of repeating past mistakes and the difficulties of handling pain or discomfort. Add in that life happens so quickly that it’s hard to step back and get a big-picture assessment and strategy in place. Satan loves this recipe. It leads us to make short-term, me-centered goals, accomplished in our own strength by way of knee-jerk strategies Wow, sounds like teenage thinking! The stark reality is that many adults do the same thing, and never grow out of this immature way of setting goals and developing strategies. What about you?

 

Today, before going after your next goal (or maybe you are in the midst of pursuing a goal) talk directly with God about it through prayer. Listen as He speaks to your spirit, through friends, your family and circumstances. Ask God for discernment to help you decide if that goal is part of His will for you—right now. If the answer is yes, then go through the same process in evaluating your strategy. Then you can pursue that goal with even more confidence. When you reach that goal, thank God for His help and guidance. Rejoice in what He has accomplished in you. But if the answer is no, let the Holy Spirit search you as you journey. Look deeply and honestly at what keeps you from accomplishing goals that are Godly. Whether you set healthy goals, use Godly strategies, and enjoy the journey, or you set me-centered goals, your strategy is randomly winging it, then you keep wondering why your coming up empty, it’s your decision, so choose well.

 

Prayer

Dear Father, pursuing goals comes so naturally to me, it’s almost like second nature. I confess that when a goal grabs my attention, my instinct is to “go for it” without talking it over with You. I realize now that many of my goals are superficial and have nothing to do with pleasing You or doing Your work. I know, Lord, that when I take time to discuss matters with You, my life becomes so much more satisfying. I pray, Lord, that You help me develop goals that are in line with Your will. Become my Captain in every task I undertake to accomplish the goal. Help me to grow in humility and accept Your direction, will and timing. I pray that You shine the light of Your presence on all my goals. I pray in the name of the One Who modeled the ultimate goal, Jesus Christ. And all God’s children say AMEN! 

 

The Truth

“I can do everything through him who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13

 

“Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails.” Proverbs 19:21

“Blessed are those who have learned to acclaim you, who walk in the light of your presence, O LORD. They rejoice in your name all day long; they exult in your righteousness.” Psalm 89:15-16

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