October 20, 2020
What Kind of Character Does Your Adversity Reveal?
Unfortunately, with reality TV, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube in full swing, we live in an era when people are more intent on being a character than in developing character. Why not, since we live in a convoluted upside down society that financially rewards characters and oftentimes punishes those who display real character?
We’ve endured a year with adversity not seen since at least World War II. With the many curveballs, stress, adversity, loss, and danger we’ve seen this year, people’s character, or lack thereof, has certainly been revealed in many ways. Character is the set of outward-facing qualities that tell our friends, our families, and the world who we really are on the inside. Character reflects what is really at the center of the heart. It’s not about the words we speak. Anybody can say anything to intentionally or unintentionally mislead, pose, or evade the truth. Character is about how we actually live our lives, the decisions we actually make and act on, not just what we tell people we would do in a given situation. Our actions eventually reveal the attitudes and motivations in our hearts.
Anybody can wear a mask to hide the true nature of what is on the inside for a while, which makes it difficult to know, rely on, or trust someone. But this is where pressure, stress, life’s storms, and adversity come into play and show their value. You see, it is much more difficult to put on a mask in the midst of challenging circumstances. It’s often during these storms that people’s true colors are exposed for others to see. What’s revealed either makes us interesting and more attractive to others, or reveals some inner ugliness!
Pressure and adversity push what’s inside to the surface. Storms reveal whether your coping mechanisms are mature or immature. Most importantly, difficulties cut through all the layers to expose who is on the throne of your heart. Is it God or yourself? We have talked many times about how decision-making gets very warped when me-centered propaganda becomes the basis for decisions, and this is a hallmark of “poor character.”
So how do we develop character? In Romans 5:3-4 Paul teaches us that suffering produces character. While it is admittedly difficult, try to see and be thankful for the fact that God is using life’s difficulties … and Satan’s attacks … as opportunities to build your character. God brings storms to: 1. Build character; 2. Reveal to you what is at the center of your heart; or 3. Allow you to succeed through the adversity, shining His glory to others to guide them through their storms. Waiting for the storm to learn skills doesn’t work. You need to practice before the game to be prepared for the game. Practice the Decision-Making skills we teach in WITHIN REACH and Edging Forward. We show you how to process and apply God’s character and teaching to any life circumstance, both times of blessings and adversities.
Today, take notice when things don’t go your way. What does your behavior reveal about the character of your heart? What is your knee-jerk response? If you acted on the first thought that came to mind, what would you learn about your heart? You can build character, but it will take intentionality and practice. Better to practice building character, instead of me-centered living on the edge or at the whim of the next storm, which will exhaust you daily. Character is essential for peaceful and fulfilled living. Whether you look to build character or you pose as an impostor and suffer when the pressure is on is your decision, so choose well.
Dear Father, Thank You, God, for the opportunities You give me to grow in Your strength through my difficulties. I pray that You help me develop character that pleases You and allows me to be an example of a good child of Yours. I confess, Lord, that I spend too much time and energy on my image management. Help me shift that effort to improving my character. Suffering and difficulty seem to be the norm for me rather than the exception. Help me, Father, to use them to build perseverance … and to use perseverance to build my character. With Godly character, hope will be strong and abundant. I ask in the name of our Suffering Servant, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say – AMEN!
Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. Romans 5:3-4
But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7