January 2, 2012
Did you get hit by the same bus I did. You know, that whirlwind of the last 6 weeks from Thanksgiving week through New Year’s Day. It seems like we packed 6 months of living and activities into 6 weeks. Gifts were exchanged. Many traveled all over. Vacations from school and work were needed and enjoyed. Many stressors, hustle and bustle, shopping, returning, cheating on diets or other promises we made to others or ourselves. Well, the parties are over. Work and school start up for the dog days of winter. Will Congress approve a holiday to get over the holidays?
Now that the buzz of the holidays is now behind us and the bills are coming in, some of the hurts and psychological wounds we experienced or reopened are oozing and affecting our daily functioning. For many, this is when reality comes banging on the door. The issues and problems that we swept under the rug for the holiday season, maybe many seasons, start gnawing at us once again. So listen up to an important point: This is the time for wisdom, not for weakness.
Even though we all struggle with insecurity and feel incompetent in many areas of life, realizing we are powerless, on our own, to live life successfully, is a difficult reality we all have trouble accepting. Today’s culture lifts up personal independence to such a desirable virtue, that we’ve developed a bloated “I can do it myself” mentality. We think asking for help is a sign of weakness … even if the one we are asking is God! Problems are just going to worsen unless we admit the problem and execute a plan to get and apply help.
“I can deal with this situation myself … I don’t need anyone’s help. I don’t need to visit those porno sites … I can stop whenever I want to. I can stop eating those doughnuts and lose weight anytime I choose. I don’t need any help with my son … he’ll straighten up. I don’t want your charity … I am getting along just fine. I can control my temper myself… I don’t need a therapist for that. Alcohol just helps me relax, I’m not addicted. These pain killers are prescribed, so they are good for me.” And the list goes on.
Sound familiar? Maybe you haven’t said exactly these words, but you know what your own excuses and rationalizations are. You might be more subtle, higher end, or holier than thou compared to the ones I stated, but in the end, they are lame excuses that keep yourself on the throne and push God off.
It is OK to turn for help. In fact, according to the Bible, if we are wise, we will recognize our need for God’s help. And sometimes He sends that help through other people and actually professional help or treatment options.
Unfortunately, being in the behavioral health field, there is no slow season. But the weeks between Halloween and the end of March are incredibly busy. This period, right after New Year’s Day, is when many make a courageous life-changing decision to go to residential addiction treatment, marriage counseling, or a support group. An incredible life-changing New Year’s resolution needs help to make it happen. So be wise, ask for help.
Today, if you are struggling with a life-interfering behavior, now is the time to ask God for help, because you can’t grind it on your own. Call our helpline (844) 543-3242 x 101. We will help you put together a plan to find the best Christian treatment option to help you stop that behavior and transform your life! If you know someone who is struggling, call us or give our number or www.LighthouseNetwork.org to your loved one. After your friendship with them, this could be the most influential gift you can give. Remember, asking for God’s help is a sign of wisdom … not weakness. It will truly change your life, and I know because it changed my life and we get to help hundreds each month do the same! Getting help or failing on your own is your decision, so choose well.
Dear Father, I have always wanted to feel that on my own I could handle whatever life brings me. I recognize now what a mistake that has been and I ask for Your help with my struggle. Please help me grow courage to seek You out more often, patience to wait for Your answer to be made known to me, and an ear to hear Your answer when You send it. If the answer involves me going away to treatment, please humble me to accept this gracious and powerful gift. I pray in the name of the One who sees my weakness and who is my strength, Jesus Christ; and all God’s children say – AMEN!
A wise man will hear and increase in learning, and a man of understanding will acquire wise counsel. Proverbs 1:5
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction. Proverbs 1:7
The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man is he who listens to counsel. Proverbs 12:15